I’m not writing about food today, I can’t even think about it. My stomach is nauseous and as I contemplate the recipe for supper tonight I keep hitting an absolute wall of apathy.
It’s the sense of futility that’s floating around in my head. The feeling that I can try as hard as possible, that we can try as hard as possible and that it still may not go in the direction we need it to.
The sense of wonder at why I even bother, why write, why dream, why hope.
Life hasn’t been bad but it’s had its struggles and some days I just get plain old tired.
For most of my adult life I have had the odd notion that if we just put in enough effort and were good enough people that somehow the universe would recognize this and we would be rewarded with a good life. That the universal balance would be tipped in our favour and that we wouldn’t have to struggle quite so hard. I have remained the eternal optimist in the face of it all and truly believed that something better was coming.
But this time I’m really struggling to find the silver lining. I think I had dared to dream just a little too much.
I had started to imagine the possibility of the life I have always wanted. A bigger house where the dog isn’t always a tripping hazard. A yard where I could plant a garden and the kids could run around. A kitchen where I could actually have more then one person in there and people could hang out in the room I feel should be the most welcoming.
Most of all I had started to imagine the freedom that a little bit of extra money brings. The loosening of shoulders, the easier nights sleep and the ability to buy a coffee without second guessing yourself.
And all of that is once again just out of my reach. Purse strings are being re-tightened and for the first time I’ve lost a little hope it will get better.
I know we’ll make it through this. I know I’m okay and that my family is still blessed beyond belief but before there was wonderful hope and drive and a future to day dream a little about. Today is well shit.
So I apologize for wallowing for a moment and I imagine I’ll move on soon enough but I am going to sit here for a little bit and grieve the loss of my hopes at least for a little longer.
Maybe it’s the grey sky…
I hope things are better for you. I know too well the anxious worrying about money. We know how blessed we are in this first world we live in but it can get wearisome nevertheless. Hang in there! I just found your blog and really like it. Nice to find a blog that is real and not all rainbows and unicorns!
Me again! I just looked at your info and see that you live on Vancouver Island-I do too (Victoria). Funny how I always expect blogs to be from somewhere far away!
Thanks so much for your comments.
It’s nice to have the positive vibes and know you’re not alone:)
One of my goals in writing my blog was to share my real experiences good and bad and how we negotiate them. I always appreciate knowing someone enjoyed reading them.
I also think it’s funny you’re in Victoria! I always think of my readers as so far away;)